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With
the divorce rate steadily climbing and infidelity creeping
into even the happiest marriages, in a society that trivializes
adultery and its devastating effects, with temptation and
opportunity coming at you from all directions — how
can you keep your marriage from becoming a statistic? |
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 The
man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys
himself. —
Proverbs 6:32 |
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Sue
was not the prettiest and certainly not the sexiest woman
John had ever seen. In fact, she didn’t hold a candle
to his wife. But Sue worked for John. He spent a lot of time
with her at the office. He could tell she admired him. He
liked her, respected her, and thought she was bright, creative,
and interesting. He liked being around her, liked her smile,
enjoyed her wit. She was doe-eyed, had perfect teeth, and
was married.
Was John romantically interested in her? The question would
have offended him. They were both happily married. They didn’t
even think about an attraction between them. John told his
wife about Sue from the day she was hired. His wife was eager
to meet Sue and her husband, and the couples genuinely liked
each other. The couples didn’t socialize frequently
because they lived too far from each other, but Sue kept John
up-to-date on what was happening in her life, and John told
his wife. Sue and John’s wife talked on the phone occasionally.
John wasn’t starry-eyed about Sue, and John’s
wife had no reason to believe Sue held anything but respect
for John. Which was true.
Was Sue worth losing a home and family over? Now there was
a question even more insulting than the first. No woman was
worth that. In fact, John used to tease his wife, “If
I ever throw you over, kid, at least I won’t humiliate
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It was
a joke because it was the last thing on his mind. He was a
Christian, active in church, a father of three with a comfortable
and happy life. He wasn’t looking for anything
more or different. He was challenged, motivated, and excited
about his job and his career path. He was solid. John wasn’t
even going through a midlife crisis.
So he didn’t worry when he first found himself missing
Sue when she was out of town for a couple of days. He asked
his secretary to be sure to let him know when she called because
he had “business to discuss with her.” It was
true. And when the business had been discussed, they talked
a little more. “We miss you around here, Sue.”
The emphasis was on “we.”
“I miss you too,” she said. “All of you.
I look forward to seeing you when I get back.”
“Me too.” Nice. Friendly. Innocent.
And dangerous. But John didn’t know that then. |
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Extract
taken from "Hedges: Loving Your Marriage Enough to
Protect It" by Jerry B Jenkins |
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Whenever
the Bible talks about avoiding sexual sin, there is a word
that it uses: flee. In other words, don't put yourself in
a position to see how good your resistance is.
— John
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Hedges:
Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It
Hedges
is a unique book because it doesn’t just tell men how
to solve their marital problems. Instead it empowers them
to build a defensive wall around their marriages, preventing
serious problems before they begin. There has never been a
more critical time than right now for a book such as this.
It will specifically tell you how to plant hedges against
temptations… temptations that can ruin a marriage and
bring devastation to a family in the blink of an eye. Just
for men, Jenkins has completely reworked his guide for safeguarding
your marriage. He offers practical, biblical advice on exercising
faithfulness, plus tips on building protective borders to
defend against lust and temptation. Many new topics are discussed,
including societal changes and the Internet. Features a new
study guide and a DVD of the author.
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Every
Man's Marriage: What every man wishes he knew about what his
wife desires most
Authors
Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker believe that every man
can meet the desire of his wife. The problem is, most men
aren't exactly sure what that desire is and how they can go
about fulfilling it faithfully. In Every Man's Marriage, readers
can discover the common misconceptions about what it means
to exercise biblical authority, and understand the role of
submission in the marriage relationship. This groundbreaking
book can help readers grasp and apply essential but often
overlooked principles for marital leadership. Through candid
reflections on their own struggles to achieve biblical unity
in their own marriages, along with many years of combined
experience in marital counseling, Arterburn and Stoeker apply
solid, time-tested biblical wisdom to the everyday potential
distortions that can lead to strife in a marriage.
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Every
Heart Restored: A Wife's Guide to Healing in the Wake of a
Husband's Sexual Sin
Wives
of men who are addicted to lust, pornography, or masturbation
are not alone. Millions of men can’t get through the
day or the week without clicking on to their favorite Internet
porn sites, thumbing through adult magazines, or watching
sensual videos — and millions of wives suffer as a result.
Now, here at last is the book for every woman who has become
a casualty in the fight for sexual purity. Every Heart Restored
offers godly guidance and wisdom for women facing such personal
betrayal. Filled with stories from wives and husbands at every
stage in the struggle for sexual purity, Every Heart Restored
addresses the questions and real-life issues that matter most.
Whether wives are facing the startling new revelation of their
husband’s sin, dealing with long-term problems, or cleaning
out an old wound, Every Heart Restored will meet them where
they are and guide them to healing greater than they imagined
possible.
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The
Game Plan: The Men's 30-Day Strategy for Attaining Sexual
Integrity
Men
everywhere are under attack — your neighbor, your
coworker, your pastor, even your husband. And, even in Christian
homes, 40% of men have fallen to this foe that can destroy
marriages and ruin lives. Who is this devastating adversary?
Pornography. It floods our airwaves and PCs, assaulting
the senses, and luring its prey to return again and again.
Drawing from seventeen years of counseling practice, and
using material that he's taught for more than ten years,
Joe Dallas is helping readers face this enemy. Equipping
those who have been caught up in pornography or other forms
of sexual sin with the ability to abandon that behavior
and never return. Using the acronym ROUTE — Repentance,
Order, Understanding, Training, and Endurance — Dallas
walks readers through the steps necessary to attain —
and maintain — sexual integrity.
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Why
Great Men Fall
The
news is filled with devastating reports, almost on a weekly
basis, of famous men who fall from grace either morally, ethically,
or criminally. Wayde Goodall, a pastor and mentor, is fascinated
by this modern phenomena, and offers wise counsel for others
to avoid the pain of public humiliation and judgment. By focusing
on well-known examples, Goodall, through his compelling writing
style, points to easily identifiable signposts that trapped
great men. The profiles in Why Great Men Fall give pause to
others in similar environments: corporate execs, ministry
heads, even fathers and husbands struggling to maintain their
families. Goodall explains why biblical morality is the key
to avoiding ethical failure. His thousands of hours of counseling
also provide unique insights into the character flaws that
contribute to falls from grace.
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Respected
gospel star Kirk Franklin revealed his X-rated secret on The
Oprah Winfrey Show — he was once addicted to pornography.
Where can men turn if they want to escape the stranglehold
of porn that is ruining their lives, careers and relationships?
Breaking
Free From Pornography |
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From
the television to the Internet, print media to videos, men
are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It
is impossible to avoid such temptations... but, thankfully,
not impossible to rise above them.
Every
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The struggle
for purity is intense. A college student himself, Joe Knable
knows the great effort it takes for holiness. He shares insight
from other singles, both male and female, with a straightforward
style, and looks at God’s plan for sexuality and abstinence.
Read this extract from his book
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The news
is filled with devastating reports, almost on a weekly basis,
of famous men who fall from grace — either morally,
ethically, or criminally. How do you avoid the pain of public
humiliation and judgment? What are easily identifiable signposts
that trapped “great” men?
Why
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